Anonymous

Have you ever been deep in thought and come up with an opinion that you feel fairly clear about and even passionate about but…… its trapped inside of you?

Typical reaction is to find a friend or family member who you think might share the same opinion and agree or at least give you another way to look at things but sometimes…. there is no one because you are worried how people will react.

Or…. what if you do speak your mind?  Will you be ridiculed? Criticized?  Who will support you?  I think we might all face this to a certain degree.  Some of us post with fun names which allows more freedom and then I look at myself and think… gosh, I wish I were able to do that.  I also think that is maybe what holds a lot of people back from publishing a blog because they don’t know how it will be accepted. 

anonymous I was watching a daytime tv show on Monday while I was home sick called ‘Father Albert’.  He was interviewing a string of people and letting the audience ask questions and give their opinions.  The last half of the show he brought on the controversial Ann Coulter.  She is a conservative social and political commenter.  Granted, she is known for stirring up the pot, but I was still interested. 

She was stating “STATISTICS” from her recent book which has a chapter in it about single mothers and how the children of those homes turn out… BASED ON STATISTICS.   She didn’t deliver the message to the crowd on a fluffy pillow or with cake and ice cream to soften the results.  In summary, these kids of single mothers apparently are more likely to be rapists, school drop outs, into drugs, and lots of other bad life choice behaviors would be prone to develop.   The “Father Albert” host was baffled and I think the crowd got to him as they all felt she was the Anti-Christ sitting up there stating these facts.  Woman after woman stood up to say how awful Ann was and then would share their story of being a single mom or coming from a single household…. describing their success and that her data was faulty.  Ann was not there to cast judgment or make an opinion about it--- just trying to share the evidence.  She was down right ATTACKED!

I could see why the women stood up in outrage.  It was difficult information to hear and sometimes we can’t associate with it because it hasn’t happened to US.  On the other hand, I felt awful for Ann Coulter.  She has some bold things come out of her mouth… I know.  I’m not defending her.  I’m just saying that on a daily basis.. in one way or another, I feel a lot like her and part of me really admires her for being able to speak her mind and say things that might ruffle your feathers.

I want to stand up and state facts.  I want to share my thoughts…. even opinions about stuff.  I want to share how I feel about work, about crazy things that happen in life that I just don’t understand… but instead… I feel like it would be better just to remain Anonymous. 

Do you feel that way too?

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14 comments:

Ali said...

Oh yeah I totally feel the way you do. There are so many things I would like to voice but hold back because of how I worry it will be perceived. People don't often like the truth and so they argue it. She was not personally attacking the single moms but the felt she was and I am sure a lot of them were angry because they feared for what that may mean for their children. Very nice post though. I bet you will find lots of people that feel this way.

Jessica said...

Great post! I feel this way about a lot of things. I worry about how my thoughts and opinions will be received. I wish I could just say what I want but sometimes the words get stuck because I fear rejection or humiliation.

I'm thankful that I have a friend like you that doesn't judge me for the things I say. It's nice to have someone you can talk things over with!

Date Girl said...

Wow yeah people really hate hearing the truth. I am pretty outspoken and I've lost friends over it. But I think the friends I have are better because I know I don't have to censor myself or worry what they will think. I also love that my blog is anonymous because then I can truly and completely speak my mind, it's a good feeling.

Gauger Family said...

We actually saw that too. Funny. I personally don't care for her too much but she was making some good points about things.

Stephy said...

I definitely feel that way sometimes; I hate not being "allowed" to have a bold opinion. I had a friend [I thought we were close] & I shared some of my "louder" opinions with her. She did not like it..Or me, anymore - really. It's just not fair. I think we should all be able to have an opinion & if someone doesn't like it, they should say why! I am all for discussions/arguments, as long as everyone gets to be themeselves.

Krista said...

This (pointing up) is a beautifully written post, Janette. I can hear your heart ache to pour itself out. I understand how you can connect with someone else you wouldn't normally.

So, how do you make everyone, including yourself happy? You want the cathartic release of writing - and the sense of being heard by a blogging community, and maybe even connecting and inspiring others in similar situations and emotions as yours. But, you don't want to offend others. Being anonymous does seem like the path of least resistance to meet both of those goals.

No matter, though, because I'll be here to hear ya out whatever you have to say!

(Almost considered posting as "anonymous". :) )

dottie said...

Yeah I agree. I would sometimes too rather be anonymous but really if they don't like you for who you are, then who cares about them anyway right?

Connie Weiss said...

I have this quote on my blog.

To avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. ~ Elbert Hubbard

I was raised to keep my opinions to myself. As I became an adult and became more comfortable in my own skin...the more outspoken I've become.

Anonymous said...

Be glad you have something that you feel so passionate about that you'd WANT to write about it anonymously! That means it's important! And I wouldn't feel bad about doing it under a cover name or anonymously...you're still getting it out there regardless! :o)

Anonymous said...

I could write a novel about this subject. I have always stressed about what others thought about me. I am S L O W L Y coming out of my shell and opening up to the blog world. HOWEVER....

I do watch what I say and stiffle my crazed humor on MY blog because of what a few select would think.-- ie: people from my church that would read my blog.
It's that whole.. "be an example" type thing.
Not that I would be trashy but not sure what they would think about me talking about granny panties or PMS. HA
Did any of that make sense???

Kristi Kelly said...

It is amazing how so many people think they have the right to complain or criticize people for their opinions. If they are true friends, even if they disagree with you...you should be able to feel like you can express your opinion!! You go girl, and say whatever you want, that is what a blog is for...getting things off your chest and being able to go back and see what you were going through at that time in your life and how you felt/reacted to it at that time!

Amber said...

It's one thing to express your own opinion, but it's another thing to attack someone for their opinions. I think the problem with that is they are so attached personally to their opinions that when they hear something different THEY see it as a personal attack towards them. No single parent wants to hear that their child is at greater risk of being a drug addict or ending up pregnant before the age of 18. Especially when they're busting butt to be the best parent they can be, as someone who was raised in a single family house I can see where they'd be up in arms about her comments. Even if they are statistics.

I'm a pretty opinionated person, I try to not censor myself, especially on my blog although I do make it difficult for people to find and associate my blog to me. For example, I would die if someone I worked with stumbled on it, haha So I guess maybe I'm semi-anonymous? Hmmm....

Emmy said...

Everyone always does try and shoot the messenger. It is funny how people will think someone awesome and a hero if they are supporting what they believe- as soon as their opinions differ they become the enemy. Pretty sad

Impulsive Addict said...

Well, I can say what I want on my blog because I'm kinda anonymous in a way. I keep my blog separate from my other social media addictions. I like it that way.

But my mom reads my blog. I kinda hate that but I still say what I want.

 
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